over it!!!

one of the few sweet brother moments



Alex loving his basketball



Ryan swimming like Michael Phelps


So I think I am waaay over doting on my children on this blog. It is becoming more and more difficult to sound sweet all of the time. They are cute and adorable, but they are also horrendous at times. And I think the closer it gets to christmas, the worse they both get. And Alex doesn't even understand the concept yet. He just follows in big brother's footsteps. Bless his little baby heart.

Ryan has been ever so difficult lately. At home, church, and school. I am at my wit's end on what to do. I've tried everything it seems. Spanking, time out, taking things away, extra homework, no TV, no computer....what else is there? My last resort I swear is to pack his bags and send him to some other military school. Not really, but I don't really know what to do. Every morning before I drop him off we discuss how we're going to have a good day at school. Listen, cooperate, raise my hand, be respectful by saying yes ma'am and no ma'am to his teachers--he's got all that down pat. But it's everything else. Walking in line like he's supposed to. Sitting still on carpet. And today of all things--he pulled a girl's hair until she cried. Sheez oh pete child!! That I am sure has come from Alex who has started that since moving up classrooms at daycare. What Ryan doesn't seem to realize is that Alex gets in trouble when he pulls hair and so will he!! If anybody has any ideas, please feel free to respond. He has his annual appointment with his pediatrician in the morning, so I can discuss things with him as well.

Alex on the other hand has been so hard to get to bed, always wanting to go "nite, nite" in my bed. That is coming to a close, and it's about door therapy (as Mike calls it) every night. We have to close the door and let him cry it out. And since he is able to open the door, I had to put a handle on it that he can not use. It breaks my heart, but he has to learn to go to bed. Once he's asleep, I open the door so that I can hear him so it's not as though he is locked in there all night. He has also had this fascination with the DVDs. So much so, that we had to move them into our closet where they can't be seen. He just wants to look at them, pull them apart and re-stack them. It's cute and keeps him occupied, but seriously? You have to leave them in the case son if you ever want to watch them again.

I'm sure tonight will be traumatic as Ryan can't watch TV or play on the computer & I am moving bedtime back to 8pm. He will pitch a fit I am sure, but that's life. Alex will be upset when he can't watch TV either, but I guess that's just what will have to happen. Maybe we can decorate the Christmas tree or something to keep them occupied until bed time.

Okay, enough blubbering. I really do love my children, it just seems as though some days it's a little much. I feel so sorry for Kate Gosselin. I realize people think she was a b#%$^ but seriously? If I had to wrangle 8 kids at a time, with 6 being the same age, I can't say as though I wouldn't be the same and do a lot of the same things as she did. I have trouble some days managing just my 2. They are beautiful and adorable children. Ryan really excels in reading and math, and is truly enjoying his swim lessons. We'll do another 8 weeks beginning in January or February. Alex loves to read and his vocabulary is ever increasing. He understands everything you say, especially when it comes to brushing teeth. He loves that part of night time ritual. He also likes to try to potty. He's watched Ryan and the kids in his class do it--he thinks he can, too. It's so funny to see him stand at the potty. He's so short and barely comes to the edge, but he wants to be like the older kids. Who knows, maybe he'll potty train early.

So enough of my rant now. Here's to a good rest of the week. Prayers to God for patience and strength.

Renee

Big boy birthday

Today is Ryan's 6th birthday. Every year I smile and let a tear go knowing my firstborn is growing up. He is such a loving and kindhearted little man. And lately has truly been coming in to his own. He is so smart and able to read already. That in and of itself totally amazes me. He's been in swim lessons, and after only 5 is swimming on his own. I was so amazed at his progress and comfort in the water these days. He loves his brother and loves going to church. Some days he says things that make me think God is talking to him. I'm just waiting for the day .... We've had a great day, and although there was no big party hurrah it doesn't make it any less special. He is my son. My beautiful boy. I am so blessed. Happy Birthday Ryan Mommy loves you.

this and that

The year is flying by and it's the beginning of November. Halloween is over and we are starting the holiday season. What a fun time to be had this year as both boys are growing up.

Ryan was a knight for halloween this year--and actually went trick or treating. Very unusual for him since he hasn't done that since he was 2. He had a great time which was a first. As far as school goes, it's still a challenge. The teacher says he's very bright and reading and doing math on a higher grade level. No surprise to me---But still getting bad faces. Today he had a reteach on talking in the hall and moving around on the carpet. So.....I made him write sentences, "I will be quiet in the hall" and "I will sit still on carpet" It made an impact enough to make him cry. I actually took his chair away and made him stand up because he was pushing it around to get me mad. Well, I just took it away and made him mad instead. He is now finished and wrote his name at the top of both pages to take to Ms. Crist in the morning.

Alex was Spiderman. I had originally bought him a new costume as a clown, but it was too tight when we went to daycare. So we pulled out Ryan's old costume and it worked just fine. I think he's more of a spiderman anyway. He is so mischevious these days as a toddler. More so than Ryan ever was. I found him on top of a Bob the Builder case the other day trying to get in to the DVD player for Diego. Little stinker!! And for some reason he loves toilet water. UGH!!!!

Here are some pics from the last few weeks. The sunrise was on my way home the other morning. It just reminds me of how beautiful a new day can be for us all. I'll keep reminding myself of that tomorrow when I'm home with a sick child.

A new week

So Ryan had strep throat--Alex was cutting molars and I've just been plain worn out. I guess that's the joy of being a mom with a full time job.

But now it's a new week and all is well. Alex has moved up rooms at church and now at daycare :( He's just growing a little too fast for my taste. I know it has to happen, but.... He is still such a joy. I love it when he gives me the tightest hugs ever. It is just too sweet. I'm glad both of my boys are cuddlers.

Ryan started private swim lessons on Sunday of this week. I got this girl's name from a couple of friends that have used her. All I can say is she rocks!! Within thirty minutes she had him swimming with a noodle and dunking his entire body under water!!! I could hardly believe my eyes. I can't wait until next week so Mike can watch him. I'm sure he'll be impressed by what he can do in the water.

Mike celebrated his 43rd birthday on Saturday. Although he hates birthdays and holidays, this one didn't come without issues. I'm just hoping we can all move forward and he can have a better attitude toward life. Another year gone with things you can't change. No use looking back.

Have a great week everyone!!!

LIttle man's birthday

So it happened. I sit here through tears of sadness of letting things go and the joy of looking to the future--going through clothes to give away to others that may need them. Life goes on. With that being said:

My little man has turned the big 2!! He is so smart and amazing it just blows me away. He talks constantly now, only 1/2 of which I can understand. But he understands absolutely everything. When I say, "time to brush your teeth", he runs to the bathroom and hops up on the toilet to turn on the water. I asked him this morning where his gum was (he had stolen a piece out of my purse), he proceeded to open his mouth. He also, unfortunately, has learned how to open the garbage. That can be a bit of an issue when throwing away something he truly wants.

We didn't have a big throw down party--just family. But I did make yet another awesome cake, if I do say so myself. It was a little challenging drawind and putting it all together, but so rewarding. He loved the b-ball, b-ball, b-ball. Plus I had basketball plates and cups which he thought were all his. He even blew out the candle which truly shocked me. At first when I lit it, he just stared. Then Ryan blew out one and he realized it wouldn't hurt him. It was absolutely adorable.

Only 6 weeks until Ryan's birthday. He wants a dinosaur cake. That may take some major doing.....

The week in review

This has been a pretty good week in the Phillips household. Although there's been plenty of rain to go around, there have been a few dry spurts as well.

Ryan had a fantastic, can I say again, FANTASTIC, week at school. Every day he received a smiley face!!!! This is such an improvement from last week. On Thursday his teacher had written that he was trying really hard to follow directions and was doing a great job. I was very proud. But Friday took the cake. While I was sitting in car line, the lady getting the car numbers stopped at the truck. She asked if I was Ryan's mom. I said yes, having no idea what was going to come out of her mouth. She said, "I just love him. He is just the sweetest boy. He is so kind and loving. I took him to the principal's office today. (In the back of my mind I'm thinking 'oh no, it's only kindergarten'.) I got him a special treat because he's been so good this week." WHEW!! Crisis averted. I was so proud inside. My little man is growing up and adjusting to school. It's good to know he is so well liked by his teachers.

Alex is just blooming with words and his understanding of things. His definite "no" and "sit down" are my favorite. Stubborn child though--just like his mommy!! He turns two on Friday and my heart just aches. As I passed the nursery this morning and saw the newborn area I just wanted to cry. I remember just yesterday my baby was that small. I know life goes on and children grow, but sometimes my heart just yearns for another. Oh well, I love my children as they grow just the same.

Love to all,
Renee

Our life

Okay, so I have decided that even though New Year's is a few months away, my resolution should be to update my blog at least weekly. So much changes and life gets so busy I just don't take the time. I need to make an effort to do this better.

Ryan has been in kindergarten for just over a month. He's had his ups and downs and share of straight and upside down faces. Last week I had a "come to Jesus meeting" with him. Evidently his teacher thought it entertaining when I wrote that on the note to her, as she showed it to the TA in the room. They both appreciated it. Ever since he's gotten nothing but smily faces. Kindergarten just isn't that challenging to him right now. I am sure it will become that way eventually, but now he just breezes through everything. He is already learning to read, and is all about his sight words. He reads to me most nights, which I just love. Since Mike and myself read so often, I hope our love of reading has rubbed off on him.

Alex on the other hand has turned in to the typical toddler, complete with tantrums and screaming at inappropriate moments. He is still absolutely adorable though. He's talking so much--"sit down, be the ball, Hi, papaw" just to name a few. It's so cute when he tells me to sit down. It's quite adorable. He still eats anything I give him. He really loves black beans and rice from my burritos. He says, "bite" and points. In other words, that is his and he wants it. Spoiled little child. But that's only on way to be when you're that age. Not only that, but that's how memories are made.

My birthday has come and gone as well on the 14th. It was a great day, complete with a childless dinner at Bonefish Grill. The food was great and dessert was even better. That was until we got home with the little man. He had croup and the next day at the peds office, discovered he had another ear infection. Bless his heart. Finally now a little over a week later he's feeling better. Still not sleeping through the night, but hopefully that won't last much longer.

Well, there's a lot coming up in the next few weeks. Alex will turn two, Mike and I will have been married for 7 years, Mike has a birthday, then not long after that is Ryan's birthday. Then of course only 6 weeks later it's Christmas. Geez, it's a busy next few months. Hopefully I'll be able to sit down to blog all this.

Best to you all
Renee